There is an "upside" in this.

After knowing each other for 25 years, you figured it out. You figured out that you belonged together. Too many people don't. In fact, TVLand channel has an entire reality series about that, now.

Allen, my "little brother", you said a very wise thing to me, on the phone, a few weeks ago. You said: "We are going to live, and love, as long as we can."

That is EXACTLY right.

Whether it is my parents (who had their cancer episode in the 70's, and are approaching their 50th wedding anniversary), your parents, Amy and I (with her health issues, and approaching our 25th anniversary), or you and Cara, that is all we have: "to live and love, as long as we can."

Sadly, those of us that don't have a definite "suspense date" for that, tend to do a lot of stupid stuff, to include taking our spouse for granted. When the truth is that every moment with your spouse is precious, whether you have a month, or over 50 years with them.

The OTHER part of this is ... What if? ...

What if, you two had not made this connection, at last, a few months ago?

Allen would be alone, miserable, and, possibly, still on the East Coast.

Cara ... well, would she have survived, what was it? January 29th? When she collapsed in her apartment, in Las Cruces, alone?

The current situation is not one that anyone would wish for. On the other hand, figuring out that you were supposed to be together last year, has been better for both of you, and, in a meaningful way, prolonged Cara's life, and improved the quality of it.

Lastly, Ecclesiastes 3 says:
Eccl 3:1-4

There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under heaven:

2 a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
3 a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
4 a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
NIV


Solomon makes a good point.

While you have this time together, dance, even if it is the "Holcy Dance".

It's not time to mourn.